Perbedaan Cara Berpikir Pria dan Wanita

Sistem Pikiran

Otak pikiran pria sangat tersistematis, dengan kemampuan yang tinggi untuk mengelompokkan segala sesuatu, kemampuan yang rendah untuk multitasking, orientasi hubungan (personal) yang rendah, orientasi kerja yang tinggi, kemampuan yang tinggi untuk mengasingkan diri, kecenderungan untuk bertindak lebih dahulu baru berpikir kemudian jika mengalamai stress, respon yang agresif terhadap resiko, dan kecenderungan untuk berkompetisi dengan pria lain.

Pria berpikir dengan otak kanan sebagai sumber utama pengambilan keputusan dibandingkan dengan otak kiri. Otak kanan yang dominan telah meminimalkan ekspresi emosi dan intuisi perasaan sehingga berpikir secara terstruktur dalam rangkaian yang rumit. Secara praksis pola pikir seperti itu telah menempatkan pria sebagai pribadi yang mudah mengambil keputusan dan tidak terlalu memusingkan hal-hal yang sekunder.

Otak wanita mempunyai tingkat empati yang tinggi, kemampuan yang rendah untuk mengolong-golongkan, kemampuan yang tinggi untuk multitasking, kemampuan yang rendah untuk mengontrol emosi, mempunyai orientasi hubungan (relasional), orientasi kerja yang rendah, kemampuan yang rendah untuk mengasingkan diri, kecenderungan untuk berpikir dan merasa terlebih dahulu sebelum bertindak dalam meresponi stres, respon yang berhati-hati terhadap resiko, dan kecenderungan untuk bekerja sama dengan wanita lain.

Wanita cenderung untuk menggunakan 2 otak secara bersamaan sehingga wanita berpikir secara menyeluruh dan penuh pertimbangan. Pada hakikatnya cara kerja otak kanan dan otak kiri pada wanita hampir sama yang dipengaruhi oleh nuansa emosi yang tinggi. Hal ini menyebabkan keputusan-keputusan yang diambil kaum wanita pada umumnya memiliki warna emosionil didalamnya.

Sistem Hormonal

Pria seperti seorang pelari jarak pendek yaitu cepat dan wanita lebih punya daya tahan atau keuletan (stamina) yang kuat. Pria memerlukan testosterone (hormon yang berkaitan dengan kekuatan tubuh) ketika menghadapi persoalan, dan wanita lebih memerlukan oxytocin (hormone yang berkaitan  dengan kelekatan sosial) saat menghadapi masalah.

Allah telah membuat pria dan wanita diciptakan secara unik dan masing-masing punya ciri khas yang berbeda satu dengan lainnya, namun perbedaan itu sebenarnya bukan untuk saling dipertengkarkan, namun harus dalam rangka saling melengkapi, karena dua perbedaan itu sangat diperlukan dalam segala lini kehidupan seperti sosial, rumah tangga maupun lingkungan.

7 Alternatif Masker Alami Untuk Kulit Berminyak

Vemale.com - Kulit berminyak merupakan salah satu jenis kulit yang berpotensi awet muda. Namun bila tak dirawat, maka akan menimbulkan masalah seperti komedo menumpuk, jerawat dan sebagainya. Nah untuk itu diperlukan perawatan yang menyeluruh dari bahan-bahan alami maupun produk kosmetika buatan pabrik.
Bila Anda ingin berhemat dan menggunakan cara yang lebih sehat, bisa juga dengan menggunakan masker alami alternatif berikut ini.

1. Masker Timun
Ada cara menyenangkan dan hemat dalam membuat masker timun. Anda bisa memblender setengah buah timun dengan 4-5 lembar daun mint dan stau cangkir air. Ambil sarinya, lalu celupkan beberapa lembar kapas. Peras dalam kondisi kapas tetap pipih dan tempelkan di bagian-bagian wajah. Anda bisa menggunakan sisa sarinya untuk dicelupi kapas dan simpan kapasnya dalam kantung plastik yang diletakkan di kulkas. Anda juga bisa memanfaatkan airnya untuk dijadikan spray wajah.
2. Masker Strawberry
Strawberry adalah buah yang mengandung vitamin C dan bagus untuk kesehatan kulit. Hancurkan buah strawberry dan gunakan pada wajah Anda. Gunakan secara teratur untuk membantu kulit lebih berseri dan kandungan minyaknya di wajah berimbang.
3. Masker Lemon
Jangan heran bila lemon sering digunakan dalam berbagai kosmetik untuk kulit karena kandungan vitamin A, C, B1-B3 nya mampu membuat kulit nampak sehat dan terawat. Campur perasan lemon dengan putih telur kocok selama 10 menit dan bilas untuk mendapatkan kulit yang segar dan tidak seperti kilang minyak.
4. Masker Tomat
Tomat mampu menjaga kelembaban alami kulit dan menjaganya tetap seimbang. Hancurkan buah tomat dan aplikasikan langsung di kulit Anda untuk mendapatkan khasiat vitaminnya. Anda juga bisa mencampurnya dengan sedikit perasan jeruk untuk membantu mengecilkan pori.
5. Masker Aloe Vera
Gunakan lidah buaya untuk menenangkan kulit dari produksi minyak berlebih. Aloe Vera atau lidah buaya mampu menyejukkan dan merawat kulit berminyak. Membantu mengenyahkan minyak dan mengecilkan pori.

6. Masker Teh
Anda bisa menggunakan teh hijau maupun teh hitam untuk membantu mengatasi problem kulit berminyak. Celupkan kapas pada setengah cangkir teh hijau atau teh hitam. Pilah kapas menjadi beberapa bagian dan tempelkan di wajah. Masker teh ini mampu menjaga kulit dari masalah jerawat dan kulit kusam.
7. Masker Yoghurt
Gunakan yoghurt pada wajah yang sudah dibersihkan. Yoghurt kental dan dingin yang diaplikasikan pada daerah T bisa membantu mengecilkan pori dan mengatasi minyak berlebih.
Ada banyak cara membuat kulit Anda jadi kembali cantik berseri. Dengan menggunakan masker di atas, kulit Anda tak lagi bermasalah. Selamat mencoba, Ladies.

Arjuna "Looking for Love"

Once there was a king of evil from the kingdom of Iman Imantaka whose name is Niwata Kawaca. He was a powerful and cruel king who had conquered many kingdoms. The invincible king then had another ambition. He wanted to marry a beautiful angel from the heaven of god whose name is Dewi Supraba. He came to god Indra to propose for the beautiful angel. But the god refused. He thought that the king was not a good husband for the angel. The king was so angry that he decided to attack Kingdom of god Indra. The army of Niwata Kawaca proved to be very strong. The army of god was easily defeated. Luckily the god managed to close the gate. Then the god's palace was besieged by the army of Niwata Kawaca.

Then the god Indra decided to ask for help of human being. His choice fell into Arjuna, the third son of Pandu. At that time Arjuna was meditating in Mount Indrakila. He was meditating there to pray and to search for spiritual power that he needed to face the great war of Barata yudha (war of the Barata family). God Indra wanted to test his spiritual power to know whether he was fit for the battle with Niwata Kawaca. Indra sent seven beautiful angels to tease Arjuna. Two of the most beautiful ones were Supraba and Tilottama. They used their beauty to tease him but Arjuna was proved to be a true hero. He could resist their temptation. Indra was sure that Arjuna was the right person to overcome the problem.
 

Meanwhile King Niwata Kawaca realized that there was a hero who could be a threat to his power. That's why he decided to eliminate the potential threat. He sent a monster that could change himself into a wild boar. His name was Momong Murka. Momong Murka came to the village where Arjuna was doing ascetics. As he got there soon he changed himself into a giant wild bore and destroyed the village. Arjuna did not let him do further damage so he fought back. The wild boar was so strong that he was forced to use his new weapon. He attacked the wild boar with an arrow and it was killed instantly. But as he came closer to take a look at it he was very surprised to see another hero stood by it arrogantly.
 

Arjuna said politely:
 

'Excuse me; let me take a look at the wild boar. I just shot it with my arrow'
 

'Excuse me, did you shoot it? Look this is my arrow', the hero said.
 

'Of course I shot it. This is my arrow'
 

'But I shot it first. You just followed me'
 

The quarrel became so tense that they were both became very angry. The two heroes fought fiercely but finally the other hero could beat Arjuna. As he sat in the ground suddenly the hero changed into god Syiwa. Arjuna was shocked so he saluted the god immediately.
 

'I beg your pardon your holiness, I did not realized your presence'
 

'Arjuna, you are truly a hero. You have reached a highest level of spirituality. That's why I give you a special arrow called Pasopati. It was special because it had extraordinary spiritual power. No one could resist it. Be careful'
Not long after that Syiwa disappeared like smoke. Arjuna was then a very powerful hero. Just as he was about to go home to Indraprasta, an emissary from Indra came to see him. He asked Arjuna to help Indra fight King Niwata Kawaca. Arjuna agreed to help because he realized that it was his duty as a hero to protect anyone who needs his help.
 

In the heaven of god Indra, a discussion was held to overcome the threat of King Niwata Kawaca. Indra told Arjuna that Niwata Kawaca was unbeatable. He was very strong and he could resist any kinds of weapon, even the most lethal ones. His victims were countless. So they had to find out a strategy. Arjuna decided to find out the secret of his weakness. He ordered Supraba, the most beautiful angel, to surrender to King Niwata Kawaca. But it is only a trick to search for his weakness. Arjuna would protect her from a distant. He had a spiritual mystical power that could make him invisible.
 

Indra and Supraba agreed to the plan. So one day Supraba came to kingdom of Iman Imantaka to see King Niwata Kawaca. Arjuna who was invisible kept guarding her. The King was very happy to welcome her.
'Your Majesty King Niwata Kawaca. The Most Glorious king of Iman Imantaka. I am honored to be your servant. Let me serve you with all of my heart'
'O, my dear one. I have been waiting for this happy moment. But why you leave the heaven of Indra?
 

'I do not find happiness, your Majesty. I am sure I will find it here'
King Niwata Kawaca had fallen in love to Supraba for a long time. He did not realize that it was only a trick. Supraba kept praising him so Niwata Kawaca was flattered and he lost control of his emotion. Then Supraba asked about his power.
 

'Your Majesty, the most powerful king in the world. What makes you very powerful?'
 

'Supraba, long time ago gods gave me a special power after I done ascetics. I became very powerful and unbeatable. No weapon could do any harm to me. Except for one thing'
 

'What is that?'
 

'My only weakness is my tongue. If it is hit, I will be killed instantly'
Arjuna who stood by Supraba heard that. But he was invisible. Soon he went out of the palace and destroyed the front gate of the palace. When the soldiers were busy hunting for him Arjuna went back to the palace and saved Supraba. They fled to the heaven of Indra.
 

King Niwata Kawaca was very angry to hear that Supraba had escaped. He realized that god Indra and Arjuna were behind the event. So he immediately prepared his army to invade the heaven of Indra. He had a strong army of monsters.
 

As the army arrived in the heaven of Indra they stormed it. The army of god was no match for the mighty army of Iman Imantaka. King Niwata Kawaca who was very angry shouted:
 

'Indra, Arjuna, come out of you bedroom. Be a real man. Come on, fight me'
Then Arjuna came to fight him. Niwata Kawaca who realized that his secret had revealed fought very carefully although he was very angry. He never opened his mouth. Consequently it was very difficult for Arjuna to beat him. Then Arjuna tried a different strategy. When Niwata Kawaca hit him, he fell to the ground and cried.
 

'Please have mercy. I just followed order from my god. Let me live'
Niwata Kawaca was very satisfied when he saw Arjuna fell and then sat helplessly on the ground. He was sure that he won the fight.
'I thought you are a real hero Arjuna. I thought you are a tough enemy. I never know that you are a chicken'
Arjuna kept on begging.
 

'I am just an ordinary guy who searches for a living. I am not responsible for this. Please let me go'
 

'On one condition, do you endorse that I am your king?'
'Yes, absolutely, your majesty, great king of Iman Imantaka'
Niwata Kawaca was very satisfied. He laughed out loud.
 

'Ha, ha, ha, little coward,.......'
 

He was just about to finish his words when an arrow suddenly broke into his mouth. The mighty Pasopati arrow from Arjuna went through his mouth and hit his tongue. Niwata Kawaca was killed instantly. His army was shocked and soon they were demoralized. They had no choice but to surrender to the army of god.
 

The god Indra was very satisfied with Arjuna's contribution. So he gave him a great reward.
 

'Arjuna, Now that a threat to human and god had disappeared. You really have a great contribution to god and to all humanity. So I decided to give you a reward. You will marry the seven angels'
Arjuna married the most beautiful angels of heaven including Supraba and Tilottama. After that he stayed in heaven for seven months. But then he had to leave heaven. Finally he left them and returned to Indraprastha to serve for his country and his family.

Reflection

I feared being alone until I learned to like myself.
I feared failure until I realized that I only fail when I don’t try.
I feared success until I realized that I had to try in order to be happy with
myself.
I feared people’s opinions until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain until I learned that it’s necessary for growth.
I feared the truth until I saw the ugliness in lies.
I feared life until I experienced its beauty.
I feared death until I realized that it’s not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny, until I realized that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.
I feared love until it touched my heart, making the darkness fade into endless
sunny days.
I feared ridicule until I learned how to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old until I realized that I gained wisdom every day.
I feared the future until I realized that life just kept getting better.
I feared the past until I realized that it could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark until I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light until I learned that the truth would give me strength.
I feared change, until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to
undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly.

Kamut

1. "Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness"
2. "Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile"
3. " When you are in Love you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams"
4. "So dear I love him that with him, All deaths I could endure Without him, live no life"
5. "A simple I love you means more than money"
6. "How delicious is the winning of a kiss at love's beginning"
7. "One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life That word is Love"
8. "There is no remedy for love but to love more"
9. "If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my garden forever"
10. "All love is sweet, given or returned"
11. "One million reasons to hate me, one million reasons to love me, pick one"
12. "Id rather have bad times with you, then good times with someone else"
13. "It's the little things you do that makes me love you "
14. "Truth is, you don't NEED a boyfriend to be happy But for some reason, some of us think we do"
15. "A womans heart is a deep ocean full of secrets"
16. "My lips won't stop talking about you, they tell me they miss your lips more than i do"
17. "Love is sharing your happiness with your partner and as well the sadness"
18. "You're in love That makes you actually kind of boring to people who aren't in love"
19. "Love makes the time pass Time makes love pass"
20. "To live is like love, all reason is against it, and all healthy instinct for it"
21. "Love me without fear Trust me without questioning Need me without demanding Want me without restricting Accept me without change Desire me without inhibitions For a love so freewill never fly away"
22. "My night has become a sunny dawn because of you"
23. "In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities"
24. "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies"
25. "Your words are my food, your breath my wine You are everything to me"
26. "I love you, not only for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you"
27. "Thou art to me a delicious torment" -Ralph Waldo Emerson
28. "I love her and that's the beginning of everything" -F Scott Fitzgerald"
29. "Two souls with but a single thought, two hearts that beat as one"
30. "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched They must be felt with the heart"
31. "Make me immortal with a kiss" -Christopher Marlowe
32. "There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved" -George Sand
33. "Love is friendship set on fire"
34. "Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile"
35. "To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed"
36. "If you love me only in my dreams, let me be asleep forever"
37. "Kiss me and you will see stars; love me and I will give them to you"
38. "Love is a dream that comes alive when we meet"
39. Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essense"
40. "Harmony is pure love, for love is a concerto"
41. "Here are fruits, flowers, leaves, and branches, And here is my heart which beats only for you"
42. "When a heart finds another, what's a cloud more or less in the sky?"
43. "True love begins when nothing is looked for in return"
44. "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage"
45. "True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart"
46. "Love is like a violin The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever"
47. "To love someone who does not love you, is like shaking a tree to make the dew drops fall"
48. "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread"
49. "At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet"
50. "Love is not getting, but giving, not a wild dream of pleasure, and madness of desire  it is goodness, and honor, and peace and pure living"
51. "Love can cure heartbreaks, misfortune, or tragedy It is the eternal companion"
52. "I love you not as something private and personal, which is my own, but as something universal and worthy of love which I have found"
53. "Put love first Entertain thoughts that give life And when a thought or resentment, or hurt, or fear comes your way, have another thought that is more powerful"
54. "One does not fall into love; one grows into love, and love grows in him/her"
55. "Love is the master key which opens the gates of happiness"
56. "True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly"
57. "The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart"
58. "Love is always open arms If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself"
59. "Love is an act of endless forgiveness A tender look which becomes a habit"
60. "Love grows by giving The love we give away is the only love we keep The only way to retain love is to give it away"
61. "The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness which becomes at times almost insupportable"
62. "In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities"
63. "Love withers with predictability; its very essence is surprise and amazement To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever"
64. "A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears"
65. "Come live in my heart, and pay no rent"
66. "A goal, a love and a dream give you total control over your body and your life"
67. "The most eloquent silence; that of two mouths meeting in a kiss"
68. "Love cannot endure indifference It needs to be wanted Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's heart, or its flame burns low"
69. "Since love grows within you, so beauty grows For love is the beauty of the soul"
70. "What the heart gives away is never gone  It is kept in the hearts of others"
71. "Paradise is always where love dwells"
72. "Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within the reach of every hand"
73. "Love me without fear. Trust me without questioning. Need me without demanding. Want me without restrictions. Accept me without change. Desire me without inhibitions. For a love so free. Will never fly away"
74. "If I know what love is, It is because of you"
75. "You may only be one person to the world But you may also be the world to one person"
76. "The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love"
77. "True love doesn't have a happy ending: True love doesn't have an ending"
78. "Love is not a matter of counting the years But making the years count"
79. "Only love let's us see normal things In an extraordinary way"
80. "Love asks me no questions, And gives me endless support"
81. "Love is like a rumor, Everyone talks about it, But no one truly knows"
82. "Love is like swallowing hot chocolate. Before it has cooled off. It takes you by surprise at first, But keeps you warm for a long time"
83. "Love is a haunting melody. That I have never mastered. And I fear I never will"
84. "A fool in love makes no sense to me. I only think you are a fool. If you do not love"
85. "One word frees us Of all the weight and pain in life, That word is Love"
86. "I have learned not to worry about love; But to honor its coming with all my heart"
87. "Did my heart love till now? For swear it sight, For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night"
88. "True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, Nor can it be hidden where it truly does"
89. "I love thee, I love but thee. With a love that shall not die. Till the sun grows cold. And the stars grow old"
90. "Love is like war, Easy to begin but hard to end"
91. "I love you - those three words have my life in them"
92. "When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out"
93. "Soul meets soul on lover's lips"
94. "The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart"
95. "But true love is a durable fire,. In the mind ever burning,. Never sick, never old, never dead,. From itself never turning"
96. "You love simply because you cannot help it"
97. "The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love"
98. "Since love grows within you, so beauty grows For love is the beauty of the soul"
99. "My love for you is a journey; Starting at forever, And ending at never"
100. "Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage"